Reinventing Yourself: The Transformative Power of Writing Your Own Eulogy to Become Your Best Self
As humans, we often fear change and cling to our past selves, identities, and stories.
However, life is an ever-evolving journey, and we must continually learn to let our old beliefs, habits, and expectations die in order to grow and evolve.
We have now moved into the second part of our R.I.S.E. Process - INNER. Get ready for a total internal transformation!
In this blog post, we will explore two parts: the eulogy for your old self (You 1.0) and the manifesto for your new self (You 2.0). We will embrace the idea of letting our old identities, stories, beliefs, and habits die. Then continue our vision of our new life and surrendering to God and you higher self as we step into You 2.0.
You will also get the outlines for writing the eulogy and the manifesto.
The R.I.S.E. Process looks like this:
R - Reach
I - Inner (we are now here)
S - Serve
E - Evolve
Make sure you download the R.I.S.E. work book and follow along.
To fully embrace your new self (You 2.0), you must first let go of your old self (You 1.0). Your old identities, stories, expectations, beliefs, and habits may have served you well in the past, but they also hold you back from becoming who you are supposed to become and fully living as the new version of yourself.
Since we have gotten clear on who You 1.0 and You 2.0 looks like in the Reach portion of our R.I.S.E. process, writing a Eulogy for You 1.0 will be more clear. If you haven't done this, go back and do this process.
It's time to honor You 1.0 by writing them a eulogy and saying goodbye. (Here is mine as an example)
Introduction: Begin by thanking everyone for being present at your eulogy. Explain that this eulogy is not about mourning You 1.0's death, but rather a celebration of You 1.0's life, all the experiences that have allowed you to learn ad grow opening many new opportunities in life ahead.
Death to Your Old Identity: Share about You 1.0's old identity, who they were before the transformation. Reflect on how they were limiting yourself and holding yourself back with this identity.
Death to Your Story: Reflect on the story that You 1.0 used to tell themself, one that might have been negative, disempowering, or self-destructive. Talk about how the life ahead has let go of that story and replaced it with a new one that aligned with your values and purpose.
Death to Your Old Beliefs: Discuss the old beliefs you used to hold that were limiting or negative. Share how you challenged those beliefs and have replaced them with new ones that are more empowering.
Death to Your Old Habits: Reflect on the old habits You 1.0 used to engage in, including ones that were detrimental to their physical or mental health. Share how you let go of those habits and replaced them with new ones that aligned with your values and goals.
Legacy: Reflect on the legacy You 1.0 leaves behind. Express gratitude and love. Share how you hope your transformation inspires others to let go of their own limiting identities, stories, expectations, beliefs, and habits.
By eulogizing your old self, a transformation happens in the mind. You can let go of the past and embrace a new sense of self. This is powerful. It is a psychological override. Whenever You 1.0 tries to raise from the dead, you remember that that person is dead. You were there, you read their Eulogy.
You 2.0 is now here.
Now that you have let go of your old self, it's time to embrace a new way of being. Surrender to God and trust that everything will unfold as it should (it always does but never how we picture it!)
It's time to write your manifesto for You 2.0. This can be looked at and written through the BE - DO - HAVE framework we have previously discussed in Reach Pt 2 - To Extend To. Think big, dream big, design a vision, and have fun! I wrote mine to be a a few phases out. (Here is mine as an example)
Introduction: Begin by introducing You 2.0 - Who is You 2.0? (BE)
Accomplishments: What big accomplishments have you achieved? (DO)
Lifestyle: What does your lifestyle look like? (DO)
Experience: What is your experience so far in life? (HAVE)
Impact: What positive impact have you brought to the world? What changes do you hope to see in yourself and in others as a result of your manifesto? (HAVE)
You should now have an idea of what your life can look like. SEE IT, BELIEVE IT, and go ACHIEVE IT. Exciting right? But let's not get lost in the clouds. We must take massive action to living as You 2.0.
You move, God moves - remember?
We also must understand that this is the road less traveled. There will be hardships, tests, tribulations and difficult times. This is what stops a majority of people, They will quit and just accept and conform to their world. But you, my friend, you are now a creator. Do not ever, ever, ever give up.
As you step into You 2.0 there is one last final aspect that is usually the most difficult yet THEE most powerful in your journey.
In his book Letting Go - The Pathway To Surrender, David Hawkins describes surrendering as an act of releasing our attachment to negative thoughts, emotions and letting go of our need to control everything while accepting the present moment as it is, without judgment or resistance.
It is a process of letting go of our ego and connecting with God and our higher consciousness, which guides us our journey. By surrendering, we can find freedom from negative emotions, continually let go of our old self and fully step into You 2.0 to live a more beautiful life in the present moment.
Surrendering is a powerful concept that can be applied to both your eulogy and your manifesto that you just wrote.
For your You 1.0 Eulogy, surrendering means continually letting go of You 1.0. They are dead. It also means acknowledging the aspects of You 1.0 that you may have struggled with or failed at, and surrendering to the fact that these experiences are a part of your journey and now have shaped you into who you are becoming, You 2.0.
For your You 2.0 Manifesto, surrendering means letting go of the need to control every aspect of your life and instead surrendering to the guidance of God and your highest self. It can also mean surrendering to the fact that you WILL face challenges and setbacks on your journey towards your goals, and that it is okay to let go of your attachment to your dream outcomes. This builds your faith in ways you can't imagine as you trust in the process.
By letting go of your need to control and surrendering to the present moment and God, you will begin to find a sense of peace and acceptance in your life, and create a vision for your future that is aligned with your values and purpose.
This is a process I go through about every 3 years. 3 Years are Phases in my life and I try to make sure I am always growing and evolving. Moving through this exercise allows me to continually let go of my old self and grow into the individual who lives out my manifesto.
Embracing change, surrendering to a higher power, and creating a new version of yourself can be a challenging but rewarding journey. By giving a eulogy to your old self and creating a manifesto for your new self, you release old identities, stories, expectations, beliefs, and habits that no longer serve you and you can create a new version of yourself that aligns with your true values, desires, and vision for your life.
And remember, change is inevitable, and growth is optional. It's up to you to choose the path that aligns with your true potential. So go ahead, embrace the journey, and become the best version of yourself.