The anxiety and stress that present themselves in your life are not coming from external factors.
Stress and anxiety are internal environment issues merely being triggered by external factors and events.
It is just your own projection of your internal world that you have put onto something in the external world that “causes” your “stress and anxiety.”
So how can we fix this? How can we manage the stress and anxiety that we experience when they come up or when we go through the different transitions of life?
First, what helped me was accepting that the very nature of life is uncertainty.
If you don’t do this you live in a constant state of trying to control and predict everything - that in itself is more than a full-time job and the psychological impact that has can cripple you.
The most beautiful answer you can give yourself when trying to “figure it all out” is a simple “I don’t know!” 😎 and then accept that answer. - A truly liberating answer. Go ahead, answer all your questions that are causing your stress and anxiety right now with a big I DON’T KNOW and then laugh.
Remember, life is happening for you.
Secondly, I dissect my mind. I look for the reason why my “anxiety” and/or “stress” is coming to the surface.
Another quote comes to mind, “Life will present you with people and circumstances to reveal where you are not free.”
Knowing that I begin to ask myself questions (just like a doctor would do in trying to diagnose the problem). I am trying to figure out what feeling/idea/memory I'm holding on to which I am not free from. What past hurts are coming into my picture to inform my future fears?
Most of the time I’m trying to predict, control or know the outcome of a future event while bringing in an experience that has happened in the past. This means psychologically it is as if I am living in the future - which causes tension aka “stress and anxiety” in the present.
To me, this is also my inner child or my small self who is scared and wants to be seen/heard. He’s scared of the unknown, he’s scared of failure. Once I detach and see that picture, I go from stressed and anxious to compassionate and loving. From living out of my small self to living out of my Greatest Self.
It is a complete perspective shift. You’ll want to hug yourself and say “I know, it’s ok. I love you, I accept you, and everything is going to be okay.”
Lastly, I surrender and let go.
If I can hone down to the underlying feeling, which is usually some type of fear and can accept and let go of it, the corresponding thoughts associated with that feeling start to disappear.
Thousands of thoughts can come from one feeling. Remove the feeling, thoughts start to disappear.
How do you remove the feeling? By acknowledging that it is there, then surrendering and letting it go.
Letting it go means, "I see this stress/anxiety. It's there. It's ok. I believe life is happening for me, I don't know all the answers, I don't know how it's all gonna work out, but it will. I'm gonna come back to this present moment."
*Take a deep breath* And then let the feeling of anxiety/stress go.
It doesn’t all happen in one day. It’s a continual letting go process.
But if you stick to the process, you’ll start to experience a life where stress and anxiety no longer have a hold on you. It is a life of true freedom.
If you invite what seems like chaos into your life, you’ll allow life to continually happen for you. You can let go of things (mostly psychological) that are holding you down from reaching the heights you’re supposed to reach.
This is a topic that I will dive into much more deeply over time as the concept has changed me as an individual and my human experience.
I hope this helped Elevate your life to a new height today.
Much Love. Keep Going.